Chubby chick dating
"A week later, and hours of speaking on the phone and texting throughout the night, we decided that he’d come over to my flat and we’d watch a few shows while I cooked (I know, I know, rookie mistake; like I said, I’m a dating newbie)," explained Steph.
"Obviously, one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together." It was at this point their relationship took a turn and two weeks later after not hearing from her date, Steph was stunned to receive an email from one of Robert's friends, revealing the whole thing had been a dare to "pull a fat chick" and that Robert had even been paid by his mates to do so. "A wave of embarrassment and humiliation washed over me, and I went into my bathroom and cried.
Robert even bought Steph an ornament for her bedroom (she was doing it up) and at the end of the date they kissed.
It was the following week that the relationship progressed.
Apprehensive at first, having not dated since her last relationship ended two years ago, Steph explained Robert seemed different.
"He was funny, very intelligent, open-minded and ambitious and more importantly, accepted and preferred the fact that I am plus-size," said Steph.
Writing for Refinery29, Steph revealed she had been talking to Robert* for a few weeks via Bumble and Whats App.
"I had been terrified of meeting and talking to men for fear of them judging my appearance. We’ve all heard of sick pranks such as the 'pull a pig' game, which involves a group of men daring each other to hook up with the least attractive woman (in their eyes) in order to gain clout.
"As much as I know that I am an awesome person, I’m blindingly aware that the way I look is not what mainstream society considers to be 'beautiful', and that’s something I always have to think about and carry with me. " Steph had already deleted Robert's number, so took to Twitter to tell the hurtful story.
You are the best thing that has ever happened to you.
“ Fat people who want to reduce should take their exercise on an empty stomach and sit down to their food out of breath.
And then realise that we've grown up learning and internalising that we are not okay . Not only are there people who adore "thick" women, but a LOT of them who prefer it. In line with the above paragraph, I knew that there would be that would find me attractive but the pool would be small (because of my body) and potentially full of guys I didn't personally find sexy.