Dating a hispanic guy
And it’s especially helpful when you’re arguing because misunderstandings can make things worse.
When it comes to arguments, patience is always key.
In other words, plans are flexible and subject to change. When she texts or calls you and says this, what she really means is, "I haven't gotten out of bed or showered yet, but I'm thinking about it." 4. And don't ask, because that gets awkward really quickly. Don't be alarmed if she introduces you to her family (parents, grandparents, cousins, and all) seemingly early on. Yes, this is a bit contradictory to the above point, and it may even seem a little unfair, but that's just how it is. It's kind of cute that you want to be able to speak to her in Spanish, but also kind of annoying at the same time when all she wants to do is enjoy dinner.
Don't call her 'spicy' or 'feisty.' Unless she uses those words to describe herself, in which case she may not mind if you do either. An ex-boyfriend once asked me if he could call me his "little tamale." I know I like to eat, but (a) no, and (b) WRONG COUNTRY DUDE. The sooner she gets you cleared by mami, papi, and the rest of the crew, the sooner she'll know whether she wants to keep you around or not. If you ask her to be a 1 at a wedding or big family affair too early on, she'll think you're getting serious, so if you're not, don't do this. A date's not the time to bust out the few phrases you remember from Spanish 101. But that said, if her family asks if you want to speak in Spanish while you're together, go for it. And if she's important to you, making a little effort goes a long way: It IS OK to ask questions or share a general interest in her culture or background; it's NOT OK to fetishize her or ask her "why Latinas always do [insert thing]?
Expect it to happen pretty early into the relationship.
Don’t be offended if his Monday or Tuesday night is always booked for family dinners and he has to meet up with you after. While we’re talking about family, it’s important to face the facts. With an unemployment rate of 45 percent, this is understandable.Things can get complicated when it comes to those inevitable arguments.I’ve more or less always been able to communicate how I’m feeling to my partner, and understood his sentiments as well.I was surprised at how soon he asked, but it was clearly very important to him.Weekly dinners or even daily lunches, where the whole family comes together, are really common.
I’m a compulsive planner, coming from a city where you have to schedule a coffee date with someone at least two days in advance. As you can imagine, it led to quite a few arguments, especially when it came to planning trips. I eventually adapted to the Spanish lifestyle and became less compulsive in planning, and he understood that for bigger trips, we had to make reservations and plan in advance. Whatever strikes us in the moment, whether it’s taking a walk or heading to a café, we decide then and there.