Dating the wrong girl
"In most cases, we tend to make these sacrifices to spend more time with our partners," Ponaman says."But this only happens because we don’t feel that we have had enough attention from our mates." When you're in a healthy relationship with the right one, she says you wouldn't need to change your pre-relationship lifestyle to accommodate theirs.If you used to practice self-care a lot, made sure to get a good amount of exercise weekly, and ate healthy before your partner and suddenly it changed, Ponaman says you may have fallen for the wrong person."This varies from person to person, but healthy eating, for example, allows the body to feel rejuvenated, energized, and good," she says.If so, Bethany Ricciardi, relationship expert with Too Timid tells Bustle, you could be head over heels in love with the wrong one.Being in a long distance relationship or having completely different work schedules doesn't give you much time to spend together."Good change is when you make a choice that is clearly for your highest good, but if you feel like you’ve sacrificed something to make this person happy, sometimes this isn’t the healthiest of choices," she says.For instance, if your relationship is causing you to spend a lot less time with your friends and family, you may have fallen for the wrong person.
You certainly wouldn't have to look for the various signs that they're "The One," because you'd just know.
"If you were once a healthy eater and decided to 'ease up' on the lifestyle after you began to see your partner, it shows you and your partner's lifestyle habits may not be fully aligned." It really comes down to the reason behind why you decided to make the change.
If it's to make you two seem more compatible, you may have fallen for the wrong person.
"[If] you find yourself in this situation, you have to break the cycle and go cold turkey if you can," Matlin says.
Furthermore, trying to maintain a friendship might not work either because it can lead you right back into that mess.