Dating when you are disabled woman dating men in prison
According to society, disabled people are undesirable and therefore can never be “dating” or partner material. As someone with cerebral palsy myself, I think I hopefully can try to tackle this subject with some first hand experience!First off, coming from a female’s perspective: dating is in 2016, regardless of whether or not you are disabled.” Or “You won’t be able to walk that far, will you?”As an adult who is self-sufficient and willing to tell you when something will not work out, I can tell you a lot of us love to go on normal dates, just like anyone else!Whether it’s a hidden disability or a physical disability, dating someone with a disability often seems to be overlooked or used as “inspiration porn” — someone who uses their love life to gain a social media presence or some sort of gratification for taking someone with a disability out on a date, to prom or the like.
This is a tough topic to give advice on, because it really is so subjective for each individual.Disclosure leads to stronger bonds being formed, and I will say to anyone: if you do not feel comfortable disclosing your disability to your partner, they may not be the Prince (or Princess) Charming.There is nothing wrong with you if a disclosure process goes awry!The first time I was disclosing to my boyfriend at the time was one of the most nerve-wracking things I have even done. I had created all of these fictitious scenarios in my mind that just screamed ideas like: “ you won’t be accepted anymore”, “he won’t accept your CP and you won’t feel safe”, “he could do so much better” and the list when on and on at the time!Another important aspect of disclosure is to your partner.
You are worthy of intimate connections, despite what society says about those of us with disabilities.