Parents dating after a divorce
• Give your children time to adjust to their new situation.
The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests that you wait at least six months following your separation before dating. “Take some time to think through the needs of your children,” suggests Tuchman. Your children’s ages will determine how you should communicate with them.
It may take a year or more before your children have a chance to settle into and become comfortable with all the changes divorce has brought. Waiting to date gives you the opportunity to move through any feelings of loss, anger, or fear that can be helped by attention and time.
• Don’t expose your children to people you are dating until you have a pretty good sense of the relationship’s potential. However, having your children develop relationships with people who may not be in your lives for long is not only emotionally difficult for them, but could also potentially impact how they develop their own relationships later in life.
Your relationship with your children’s other parent has ended. Perhaps you have felt some combination of hurt, anger, depression, relief, guilt, uncertainty, or hopefulness.
Maybe you’ve taken the time to address your feelings and are ready to think about getting into a new relationship, or maybe you left your relationship in order to begin again with a new partner.
Introducing them to someone who doesn’t stick around can be hurtful, especially if attachments are established.