Why am i so picky when it comes to dating
I was picky about who I got into an LTR with and who I married, but not who I'd date.I actually found that expanding my pool led me to meet some cool new people and take more into consideration than I'd originally done.Extremely Picky: Deep down, you want to be with someone but can’t seem to find the right fit.You spend more time being single than in relationships, and you have a habit of finding a range of faults in prospective dates.The Good News: I’m happy to reassure you that extremely picky daters can change if they want to do so.The first step is to admit the problem, and it’s not that you’re “picky.” The real problem is that you’re afraid.Because you have evolved personally & do not want to make another mistake regarding marriage.You know from personal life experience how painful divorce can be and you want to avoid such pain in your future.
They’re often afraid of being seen for who they really are or having someone they date see flaws or weaknesses in them.
But before we go further, we need to pump the breaks: There is healthy picky and unhealthy picky.
Briefly, I’ll define both so there’s no confusion, and you can use the information to make sure you’re on the right romantic path.
I've been dating for a year since divorce, and I"ve tried to be really openminded even when I felt that I date had something going on that would be a dealbreaker in a committed relationship. It's exhausting to date a lot of people, and to keep going out with people you aren't that excited about.
I would say, put yourself in situations where you can meet available people, but beyond that it's okay to just let it happen naturally even if it takes a long time. I think early in relationships a lot of people overestimate their ability to compromise on certain issues and underestimate the importance of other issues that turn out to be deal breakers.
Having been through a divorce, you just might have more insight into things you know you can't compromise on when it comes to potential partners. I think early in relationships a lot of people overestimate their ability to compromise on certain issues and underestimate the importance of other issues that turn out to be deal breakers.